Lovers and Friends

Do you think it's possible (or healthy) to remain friends with someone you once loved? I say it all depends on the situation. If the split was amicable, then I don't see an issue with remaining cordial. If you were friends with a person before taking it to the next level, I think you can still be friends. I am still cool with majority of my past lovers, boyfriends, etc. In my case, shit just didn't work out. This doesn't mean the individual must be thrown in the ex flames to smolder possible future indefinitely. The caveat is, you might not be able to get over a person if you entertain them too soon after a breakup, so you need to give yourselves some space to figure things out. Hell, you might realize that breaking up wasn't the anecdote, and you might want to work through whatever issues you had.  Sometimes, things just aren't meant to be at THAT time, but shit changes and people grow up (unless of course they don't). Staying friends with an ex has its boundaries. Sexual attraction may never fade, but as an adult, you have to look past mere physical attraction to really gauge the longevity of a situation.

Now, if a MF was out here slanging wang and vagine to anyone that looked twice, that shouldn't be easily overlooked. Any disrespectful action toward a person that was loyal to you warrants the need for termination. I see more often than I'd like to admit, a woman defending the greedy actions of her POS (piece of shit) insignificant other. I don't give a fuck how many squabbles we get into. If your only course of retaliation is to dole out dick, I don't want you back. I have never been THAT mad at my partner that I would go lay up with another. If you feel that you have slipped into oblivion on the relationship atlas, just dismiss this MF and move along. Be single. Enjoy the single life. Keep your communication to a minimum. Always remember, CLOSURE IS A SCAM darling! There is no need for that additional face-to-face meeting, as you'll just end up bent over the arm of the couch taking him back for the 63rd time. It's reckless and weak to be dick-manipulated. Go invest in a vibrator or something if you can't control your loins.

At the end of the day, some folk (no matter how unhealthy) are hard to purge from your system. Everyone around you will have their 2 cent to include, their unwarranted advice, and their told-you-so snarky ass responses. When you're finally fed up with being in an unrewarding situation, you'll sever all ties and hopefully find solace in the arms of a more deserving individual.